Game confession: I don't chase women. And thinking back over my life I rarely have. Those I did chase in my younger days, I ended up playing myself in the chase.
Women typically don't like to be chased. There are those few exceptions where a female with a weak ego enjoys having the feeling of being pursued by a bunch of thirsty men. But those are the exceptions.
Women like to be seduced. Major difference. Some folks may find what I'm about to say offensive, but you have to take the serpents approach to women.
Remember in the story about Adam and Eve? There was the serpent-devil, wrapped up in a tree, chilling and minding its own business. Quietly eying Eve. Waiting for her to get close enough for it to make its move. What was the devil wrapped up in? A tree. But not just any tree. It was a tree of knowledge; of both Good and Evil.
That's the stance you need to take when dealing with women: one of being rooted in superior knowledge and wisdom. Women are generally attracted to guys who they deem have something they don't already know or possess; someone who has the ability to unlock her. It's the ultimate attractor factor.
Another thing to note is the type of knowing the serpent offered Eve: good and Evil. In other words: it offered her the chance to experience the full range and totality of her own emotions: both the good ones and the bad ones.
Haven't you noticed how certain guys who most would label as bad or a jerk often end up with the hottest looking females? Even when he shows himself to not be good, pretty females still find themselves drawn to the very guy who hurts them, makes her cry, breaks her heart, and in worst cases physically abuses her. And she'll stay! Why?
Because the serpent very craftily observed a void existing in the heart of the woman:
While she could readily experience her good emotions without effort, she had nothing to deeply contrast them with. So he offered her the chance to experience the good and the bad side of herself. It was the ultimate temptation too good to resist.
How does this play into your situation today? Simple: learn how to tap into the vast reservoir of emotions that are pent up within a woman's psyche. And they are vast indeed. And learn how to artfully exploit them. Hopefully for good.
Believe it or not, women occasionally like to feel the lows of their emotions. They like you more when you have the power to make her cry and laugh, worry and feel secure. They WANT the good and the bad. If you only provide the good feelings without allowing her to also experience the bad from you, you'll leave her incomplete. And she'll go searching for something or someone to bring out in her those deeper, darker feelings.
(This also works on the flip side. If you only provide heartache and pain for the female you're dealing with, you'll leave her incomplete as well. And she'll be more likely to find that good she's lacking in some other smooth talking, fun loving guy.)
This is the reason for the popularity of love novels and female erotica. Books like Fifty Shades of Grey and Zane's Sex Chronicles allow women who lead otherwise boring average lives to experience the spicier side of their existence. Some women are so intrigued by this normally hidden side to themselves that once discovered, they become like virgins having great sex for the first time. They may even start seeking extracurricular activities outside their normal relationships.
Some of you are losing out on females because your approach and stance are all wrong. You come off as a beggar: acting all inferior. "Hey, how ya doing? Can I talk to you for a minute? What's your name? Can I call you?"
Like I said: beggarly.
Women aren't generally attracted to men who are at their level. They're more intrigued by men who they feel are above their level. And I'm not just talking finances here. Again: satan had no cash to tempt Eve with. He tempted her with knowledge that she couldn't access anywhere else.
That's another game code: You have to position yourself as the go-to person who has the knowledge that can upgrade a person's life or give it a deeper sense of meaning.
My hats off to you if you can manage to do both. A woman will always find men attractive who have the power to awaken the totality of her emotional spectrum. The good and the bad. A woman you're dealing with should to some degree both love and fear you.
While we're talking somewhat religiously, learn a lesson from the minister TD Jakes. Just keeping it 100: he's not the best looking man. He's chubby. Talks with a lisp. Balding. Definitely not heart-throb material. But I remember when he first came on the scene. Everywhere he went anywhere around the nation he could pack out a venue filled with tens of thousands of crying, emotional, attentive women. Hanging on his every word.
What's his secret? What's the secret for a man with average to sub par looks being able to have thousands of women hanging onto his every word? That's it: he had something to say!
He had something to say that women deemed worth hearing. Even if they had to stand in line for hours and sometimes days just to get a good seat so they could be near him when he says it. That's power. And it's a power any man can have if he's willing to become a student of the game, a student of women, and be willing to do the work necessary to become an upgraded version of himself.
Get into a woman's psyche, get into her head. And you'll have the key to access every part of her: mind, body and soul.
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