Living In A Fantasy

It's come to my attention through a lot of emails I receive that many of you are avid porn watchers. While there's nothing wrong on the surface with this, there comes a concern when guys spend too much time glued to their computer screens whacking off to hi def pixels of girls doing wild stuff.

How much time is too much time? Depends. Too much time is a relevant term. However, we can establish some sort of basic guidelines for how much is too much porn watching. For instance, if you spend 8 hours a day jerking off to porn...dude, that's a problem. Those 8 hours of lost productivity could've been spent at a job bringing in an extra day's wage.

If you messed around and pulled a groin muscle while beating your meat to a porn flick...my nigga, that's a problem.

If you know the real names of porn stars and actually took the time to look up background info about them...come on homie, that's a problem.

Again, these are just some basic guidelines to determine if you spend too much time watching porn. Here's some more:

If your computer crashes constantly, or has problems locking up on you because of the amount of porn you've downloaded...bruh, that's a problem.

If you've had so many viruses on your computer lately that the dudes from Geek Squad know you by name...that's a problem.

If you're at work looking at the white girls, picturing them taking it up the arse anal style like the chick from the porn you watched this morning...uh...my dude, that's a problem.

If you find yourself riding the train or bus, catching a stiffy while staring at female riders...yo, that's creepy. And it's a problem.

If you find yourself riding the train or bus, catching a stiffy while staring at male riders...er, that's dangerous and very gay of you.

If you find yourself staring at dudes that look like Wesley Pipes, wondering if his cock is long...need I say any more?! That's a problem! And you probably need to fall back from watching some of that porn. In fact it may not be a bad idea to just go cold turkey!

The danger in watching too much porn is that it forces you to live in a fantasy world. The world on the screen becomes more real than the world you actually live in. Let's keep it 100: Those chicks in porn flicks are actresses. They get paid to act. Plain and simple. Are they actually having sex on camera? Yep. You best believe it. But it's not the same kind of sex you and your wife or girlfriend would have.

Porn sells to the fantasies of men and women. Its primary purpose is to appeal to your natural instincts for sex and procreation and entice you into buying their products: more movies and downloads. It's a business at the end of the day. Just a different form of pimping and ho'ing.

Those females you see on screen: that's not how they actually look everyday. They're made up with tons of makeup, hair freshly styled, freshly bathed and douched, and ready to go to work. Sex is their job, just like yours is burger flipper at Micky Dees.

When those actresses go home, they ain't balling out of control with sex. The last thing they wanna see at the end of the day is more sex! Most of them have pimps anyway, as no normal guy is capable of holding down a relationship with them.

Again: that's not how they look or act on a daily or regular basis. And all that moaning and groaning:

"Oh yea, oh my god, it feels so good, oooooh yea baby I'm coming...I'M COMING.....aaaaaaaaaaaah...!"

Dude, it's all an act. Most of the time those chicks barely feel a damn thing. Their twats are so desensitized to any normal stimulation or sensation, they have to resort to things like slapping their twats just to get any feels out of it.

Oh, you didn't think they slapped their snatch because it actually felt good, did you? Try slapping your chick's twazz in a moment of passion and see what happens! She might jump on and slap you! Unless of course she needs the extra stimulation to bring her desensitized cunt back to life...And if so, then that my friend is definitely a problem...

I need for you playas and macks in training to do something for me. Damn that: do it for yourselves. Here's what I need for you to do: dump the porn, turn the Xbox 360 off, turn the computer and the TV off for a while, and get out the house. Go out there into the real world where real people live. And start interacting with real women, not just women's screen names and acting persona's.

Do this and you'll take your macking to a whole new level. You'll slowly if not quickly begin to lose your fear of women and your fear of rejection. And you'll grow into the bossmack you are truly capable of becoming. 

I have confidence in you. Now develop confidence in yourselves. Now get off the computer, let your sperm count build back up, and empower yourself with real world experience. Let the macking... not the whacking... begin...

You're Single For A Reason

I hate to beat a dead horse, but this is my blog so I'll rant away as I feel so inclined to do.

I was recently in the company of a few older sisters; good looking women, along the lines of Lisa Ray good-looking. These sisters had ok jobs, nice cars, good credit, only one of them had a child, and were in great physical shape. What they didn't have was a man in their lives.

They were talking, throwing out the old tired cliches: a good black man is hard to find, brothers just wanna be playas and not commit, I can't find a man to date at my level, all the black men want women of other races. Blah-blah-blah.

I noticed however, what was missing from their list of excuses was any type of self-reflection or accountability. Everything was being directed at the brothers. It was the black men that were the reason why these self-proclaimed 'good sisters' couldn't find a decent guy.

Funny, because I know these women. Personally. And in a sentence I could easily tell them exactly why they're single. I gave them my opinion, and now I would like to share that opinion with you. If you're a single lady out there, listen up. This could well apply to you too.

There's a reason why you're single. And in a nutshell it's this:

You are single because you are not yet fit to be with a decent black man.

Ouch! The truth hurts, but there's power in the pain to create healing, if you'll allow it.

Why do I say you're not fit to be with a decent guy yet? Because the Universe works according to very simple laws. We attract into our lives what we ourselves are. That's a basic principle that God set in motion to govern the functioning of this universe.

You cannot attract what you yourself are not already. You can't attract a decent brother to have a relationship with you because somewhere deep inside, you don't feel you are worthy or capable of sustaining a healthy relationship with a decent man.

And until you rectify that internal issue that's blocking your blessing, you can never attract the type of man you say you want.

Ladies, please hear me on this: If the only type of man you seem to constantly attract are guys who are dogs and playboys, that means that you don't value yourself enough to step your own game up to date more mature minded men. You keep attracting dogs because you're giving off a spiritual scent that attracts dogs to you.

You keep attracting playboys because there's some unrequited immaturity within your own psyche that hasn't been dealt with yet. And that is why you keep meeting grown men who only want to play the field.

There's a saying: when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. This can also be applied to relationships. When the woman is ready, the right man for her will appear. Until then, she must settle for the type of men she truly is ready for, who keep appearing in her life according to her request for them.

See ladies: you are always in control of your life. You have no control over my life; but you have all the control in the world over yours. This is your god-given right that no one can ever take away from you. When it comes to matters of relationships, what you keep getting is what you keep attracting. Quit calling for the dogs and scrubs, and they'll stop coming.

You have to take full and complete ownership of your life. Realize that the men who've been showing up in your life are exactly the type of men you feel worthy of being with, even if mentally you know you should want better. Spiritual law works a lot like gardening.

You may want corn, but if you are constantly planting okra, guess what? You're getting okra! Doesn't matter how much you say you hate okra and love corn, I can tell exactly what you've been planting in your garden by what continues to grow there.

The same applies to your life. I don't care how much you claim to want and deserve a good man; if all I see you dating is one dusty nigga after the next, who doesn't have his act together, I know you've been planting seeds in your soul for dusty niggas to keep showing up. That's why you can't fool a guy like me with your rhetoric. I watch for results.

It's time for you to do some personal garden tending. Quit railing against the results you've produced, and get in that garden and pull the weeds up. Get those weeds of doubt and insecurity and pull them up by the roots. Get those weeds of blame and anger, hate and hurt. It's time to let them go. They're choking out the good seed that would produce for you the type of man you really want and need.

Quit sabotaging yourself, and do the work that's needed to step your dating game up to a higher level. If you're tired of dating 'broke ass Tyrone', stop going for those type of dudes. Perhaps it's time to let your highschool days go. Back then you could date the irresponsible kid who was the popular guy in school. But you're a grown woman now. Why are you still dating guys who have the mentality and life skills of a highschool teenager?

You know the kind of guys I'm talking about: doesn't have his own place, doesn't have his own car, jacked up credit, doesn't know how to hold down a job or pay his bills responsibly on time; multiple baby mama's and sugar mama's who still take care of him, including his own mother. Or men who are emotionally and physically unavailable for serious relationships.

Why are you still drawn to guys like this?

You have to ask yourself these types of questions. It's easy to just place the blame on the quality of datable men out there. But that's a smoke screen. There are plenty of black men in the dating pool who have their act together mentally, financially, spiritually and emotionally, who are more than capable of sustaining a long-term relationship. The thing I'm constantly hearing from guys like this is how hard it is for them to find decent sisters who are availabe to date at their level!

Now much of what I'm saying here for the ladies can also be applied to the men. That's the purpose and reason behind this blog: to educate the dudes out there on how to step their mental game up to a higher level so they can attract better things in life.

But we're not talking to the men right now. I'm trying to help you ladies out.

This is not bashing. It's love. Cold, hard, yet authentic love. And real love sometimes has to be in your face, especially when you are living in a form of self-delusion. I just want to wake you up and shake you back to reality.

So in closing, start doing the necessary 'gardening' ladies. Get your soul and your mind right. Clean out your spirit so you can cultivate the things that will bring you lasting joy and increased peace. Ask God to help you. Just be ready for His help when it comes; because chances are it won't come in the form you are expecting it to. But it will come if you ask honestly.

I'm rooting for your success ladies. Love you!

Mack

Approaching Women Successfully

 Approaching women is a lot like going fishing. If you jump into the water and try to grab a fish, you won't catch any. Not only do you miss the one you went for; you succeed in scaring the rest away too. The better approach is to quietly enter into the fish's environment as if you belong there, drop your bait and work it until the fish bites. The key is patience and subtlety.

Approaching women is the same. You don't want to go the gorilla mack route and just run up on women like a caveman.

Caveman macking leads to one frustrated, disillusioned mack. Nobody likes to be made to feel fearful or intimidated. And being too bold in your approach can come across that way at times, depending on the type of females you're macking to.

Personally I don't recommend going to places or venues where the dudes look dusty and hood. You know the look: the white tee shirts, sneakers, over-sized baseball caps turned sideways and dudes  rocking the latest hood nigga urban gear. Stay away from spots like these as the women will tend to be a reflection of the men who frequent these places. Matter of fact, here's a new motto for the upcoming summer:

STAY AWAY FROM HOOD BOOTY!

Plain and simple. Some of you playas out there like them hood chicks. Hood chicks come with way too much baggage. Don't get it twisted: I know some of them brawds are certified thoroughbreds when it comes to their bodies. That's why so many of them turn out to be strippers.

I've had more than any man's fair share of hood booty, which is why I warn you to stay away. Too much baggage, too much drama. The risks simply outweigh the benefits.

Many of these chicks are taught to be scandalous from a young age, setting niggas up to get robbed or even worse. I had a homie who banged out a hood joint he met in a club one night. Next day when he should've been home, but was away handling business, he came home to find the lock to his front door jimmied open. When he went inside he found his place ransacked and someone had left a pair of handcuffs on the floor. How many of you know those cuffs weren't for any kinky foreplay...? They was gonna tie my man up and torture him until he revealed where the safe and money was at. And he probably wouldn't be alive today. In short: the chick had set him up.

Hood booty. Avoid it like the plague. They run child support scams on dudes, peel money out your pocket when you're sleeping, copy your credit or debit card info. Stay away from the hood booty. But back to the topic at hand...

Certain venues or clubs require a bit more aggressive approach with females, because the chicks in those places are used to being stepped to more aggressively. I don't recommend hitting up places like that. Places like this tend to cater to a clientele of thirsty dudes, and delusional females with over-inflated egos.

How to know if you're at a 'hood club: if you see this, you're definitely at a hood club!

Find the places more in line with the type of character you possess. If you're a laid back dude who doesn't like shouting over the deafening noise of blaring music, go to more laid back spots to do your macking. If you don't like putting on your Sunday's best just to leave the club smelling like cheap dank and burnt blunts, stay out of those types of places. Again: those places cater to a specific crowd of folks who usually lack the wherewithal to do better. And the venue really does determine the approach.

I've macked up on doctors, attorneys, executives and even a few TV news anchors in places where the vibe was much more laid back. The music was mellow, the ladies put thought into how they would be perceived by the outfits they put on. The dudes be suited and booted or on some dress casual tip.

Upscale urban lounges tend to have people dressed as such. These were the kind of spots I preferred for getting my mack on

Lounges, private parties; even places as laid back as a bookstore. The approach in places like these is simple: I walk in like I quietly own the place, observing everything going on around me. I walk up to the bar, order my drink, chill for a minute and just observe. When someone available catches my eye, I make my move. Granted she's available.

It doesn't make any difference how cooperative or choosing a female may be: if she's there with some dude, I don't approach. He might just be a friend or even a relative. Doesn't matter: she shouldn't have brought the dude with her that night. Her loss. I believe in remaining drama free, and I don't want to have to touch some dude up because I approached his chick and he felt slighted. It happens.

There is no 'one size fits all' approach to any female. You just have to go with a natural flow, and avoid the corny pick-up artist lines that everybody is hip to by now. Just be yourself, start out with simple conversation, and let the convo flow. If she's receptive to your lingo, let your good game settle on her. If she seems uninterested or gives you short borderline rude answers, excuse yourself, shake the dust off your feet and reserve your macking for a more receptive female.

Never feel like you have to pull any one particular female. Like our fishing analogy: there's a ton of fish in any given pool or lake. If that one particular 'big one' gets away, shake it off, bait your line again and get back out in the water. More fish are waiting to bite, I promise you.

The Value Of Your Attention

Your attention is extremely valuable to women.

Its YOUR attention; and you have tons of it. You can give it to whomever you want. A female, she NEEDS attention; lots of it. So in essence, you supply what she needs. Its all about supply and demand. Whenever there's an over supply of anything, it tends to go down in value. That's why you have so many lackluster females running around nowadays, thinking they poop flower dust for farts.

It's Time To Transform Yourself

Chef Jeff Henderson, a former drug dealer who went from prison to being the head chef at the world-class Bellagio.

You can be the next average rapper, or the newest publishing world sensation.  You can be the next 'Tony Montana' wannabe, or you can travel the world creating exotic cuisines as a world-class chef.

You could settle for the life of being just another ordinary man; or you could amaze yourself and the world as a young business mogul.

The world is yours my friend. And thats not just some famous line from a Scarface movie. You have the power to bend this universe to your will. And you've always had this power. Perhaps you just weren't aware of it.

It's time to wake up, stop settling for the life others think you should live, and start going for the life of your desire. You have the power and the God-given right to customize your life to your own liking. Never mind what mom and pop think you ought to do. They've had their lives. They've lived the life of their choosing, whether it was their ideal or not. Nobody has any right to determine your life for you but you!

Take ownership of your life. Own it fully and completely: mistakes, mishaps, missteps and all. Also be sure to own the victories no matter how insignificant or small. This is your life. It's God's gift and personal present to you. It's your job to take it and turn it into a present for the rest of us.

Drop that fear complex. Quit using fear and other excuses as a crutch. Quit using age and race, income and circumstances as reasons why you won't pursue the life you're supposed to be living. For every excuse someone gives for why they can't go for their ideal life, I can find you three examples of people far more handicapped than you who did it.

There are no excuses. Only doing or not doing.

Want to know what life you should be living? It's really simple. I'll help you find the answer with a simple analogy. Instead of going against the blowing of the wind, turn and put the wind to your back and go where the wind is trying to take you.

Here's another analogy: instead of rowing against the current, turn your boat around and allow the current to work for you and carry you to where it's seeking to take you.

In other words: trust life. Trust God. No, not the religious old white dude in the sky version of God. I'm talking about the actual Father and Source of all life.

The winds of  Life have been blowing on you for some time now. You've been sitting in the current now for a while, trying hard to row against it, trying to go in the direction you saw your cousin or your friend go in. Everybody seems to want to follow everybody else, when most have no idea where they're going.

You have to trust your talents, trust your natural and accumulated skills and experiences, trust the natural flow and inclination of your soul. Trust your passion. Trust your greatest interests. Trust that hobby of yours that you only toy around with at the present moment. That hobby is most likely a clue to what you should be giving your life to.

If people spent half as much time discovering themselves as they did in trying to discover who's the next to get booted off American Idol, they would learn their talents and discover their purpose.

We tend to act like God has somehow run out of creativity; like once He created Heaven and Earth He chilled out forever. In the Bible, God may have rested on the 7th day, but He went right back to work on the 8th. And He's never ceased creating since.

Yours is a totally unique life. You are one of a kind, absolutely without precedent. There's never been one like you in this world; and never will another you grace this earth again. That's why I get so peeved over the dudes in our cities all across America who live and die as carbon copies of the next dude. Trying to be something they're not. Trying to live out some fictionalized Hollywood created character like Tony Montana. Tony Montana must die!

Why are you content to be a copy of someone else's authenticity?

It's time for real dudes to step up and live real, authentic lives. Be the best you that you were created to be. The you without precedent. It's time to leave our fears in the dust, to take on a new, true persona, and get busy creating the lives we were truly born to live.

Anything less is nothing short of a slow death.

10 Signs Your Girl Might Be On The Down Low

Strange friends. We've all been with a chick who we felt had a very strange relationship with one of her homegirls. They did a little too much together, or seemed just a little too close.

We hear a lot in the media about brothers on the down low. But we don't hear much about the sisters who are on the down low. Make no mistake about it: they're out there. And they are far more sneaky than their male counterparts.

Here are a few signs you can look for to tell if your chick is on the lick. None of these are in any particular order. As usual I'm flowing straight from the dome of personal experience and observation on this one. These are my unofficial ten signs your girl might be on the down-low:

1. Gay Innuendos

You ever met a chick who has female friends who seem a bit too weird in the way they interact with each other? They just give off a funny vibe around each other. Like there's a little more to their relationship possibly than meets the eye.

They may even throw little 'gay' innuendos back and forth in a playful banter, saying things to one another like: "Girl you look good in that dress. Hell, you making my thighs moist just looking at you!"

Besides being a weird thing to say to your friend... that's just gay.

Or maybe something gets said like: "Girl if I was gay, I'd do you in a heartbeat!"
That's a very strange thing to say in jest...and also very gay. Don't overlook these slight signs and innuendos homie. Peep game!

Now we all know females tend to be more touchy-feely then men. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm referring to outright gay sounding innuendos. Things said 'in jest' such as:

"Ah, shut up bitch; eat my pussy..."

"Bitch, suck my left tit..."

"Girl if I had a butt like yours, I'd just squeeze my own ass..."

Ladies, that's not cute banter. Thats GAY. Very gay. And if you fellas catch your girl talking like this 'playfully' back and forth with her homegirl, keep that inner eye of game wide open. They may be more than just playfully jesting.


2. No Clarity Of Dating Preference On Her Online Dating Profile

This one was always a red flag for me. In this day and age of double-dick clutching, dick and clit sucking, there's no reason under the sun why a female wouldn't let her dating preference be known upfront. Whenever I used to meet females online who turned out to be bi-curious, they always were vague on their profiles about their dating preference. Without fail.

A lot of straight females get hit up by dudes and chicks online. So the chicks that are strictly dickly usually let it be known right on their profile page. They leave nothing up to assumption. But the bi-curious chicks...they're very clever in the way they leave that pertinent piece of info off their profile page.

That's a red flag fellas.

Much can be said by what's not said. And bi chicks use things like that as a signal to get at other bi chicks. It lets them know that they're open for 'experimenting' or 'trying new things'. These are terms you should also familiarize yourself with if you're going to be meeting females on dating websites.


3. Sudden and Frequent New Female Friends

If your lady seems to strangely meet a new female friend on the regular, or keeps 'reconnecting' with all these homegirls from her past, something maybe going on more than meets the eye. Do yourself a huge favor: check out the personal girl for girl ads on sites like Craigslist. It's very eye-opening.

There you'll find ads from horny housewives seeking a female to hook up with over the weekend while their husbands out of town on business. You'll find ads from chicks seeking another female to go shopping with...and other activities involving oral cavitities and lubed body parts. And the way they'll play it off is to tell the boyfriends that their just friends. They actually say this mess right on the ad! Some of these down low chicks can be scandalous!

So be alert fellas, less you find yourself cupcaking with a part time slit licker. Shame on you if you're cupcaking at all. Double shame if you're doing it with a superfreak closet slut! Trust me: it happens a lot!

4. She Has A Lot Of Gay or 'Suspect' Looking Friends

You know what they say: Birds of a feather flock together. Any female who has a lot of lesbian or bi friends is suspect by association. If your girl has two or three close lesbian or bi friends, she's most likely the 4th! And the sooner you come to terms with this reality, the better off you'll be.

Stop believing what these females tell you at face value. Chicks be on some scandalous stuff when they want to be. If it doesn't look right or pass the smell test, don't trust it! If you're suspicious about the kind of females your lady hangs around, then you should be.

If she hangs around a bunch of dike looking chicks, chances are she's getting her twat licked into oblivion every chance she gets by these same suspect looking females. And if she hasn't crossed over yet, she wants to! Why else would she hang around gay chicks? You know what they say: you hang around fire long enough and eventually you will get burned.

Alot of females use the excuse "We've been friends for a long time and I can't just stop being friends with her." But usually they keep this gay or bi friend around because secretly they wish to try it out themselves. And they know it's just a matter of time when they'll be alone and the gay friend will have the opportunity to live out her fantasy by making an advance and tasting her friend's secret fruit.

Don't fool yourself playa. If your girl keeps a few gay lesbo friends on deck, your girl's swinging on both sides of the fence. And she has no intentions on stopping for you or for anyone else. Its what she likes, has interest in and enjoys. You either have to accept this about her, or charge her to the game. Just be aware of what you're dealing with either way.


5. Piercings In Strange Places

If your lady has nipple rings, clit piercings, clit rings or a tongue ring...chances are she's a major freak. Why else would she allow a total stranger to toy around with her no-no spots with a needle for any length of time? Think about it: what does getting a piercing in those spots really say about you? That you like constant extra stimulation in those areas, right?

Females with clit rings don't usually get them for the guys. Most men  for one don't even know how to lick the cat properly. She wouldn't dare trust something that delicate and potentially painful to any old amatuer. Nah playa: them rings are for the skilled cat-scatters! And that usually comes back to the chicks who love to lick slits.

If your girl tells you she got her clit pierced just to try it out, she's a damn lie! She got that joint pierced because she was hoping to get some lipstick lesbo to Brrrr-brrrrr her twat into another dimension of pleasure. Again: why else would she get it?

Hoping that the next dude that comes along will know how to eat it right is too much of a hit or miss gamble. I gurantee you she has more of a sure shot plan of action for that clitty ring. And you ain't it!


6. Turned On By the Girl-On-Girl Action During Porn Flicks

This one should be obvious, but it blows right over most dudes heads. If you're watching a porn with your lady, and she seems to get most excited by the girl-on-girl scenes...she's on the down low playa.

Just observe her. A lot of females won't tell you this, but just about all of them to some degree get turned on by the lesbo scenes in porn flicks. And a lot of them first get turned onto the idea of having a lesbo experience themselves by watching porn flicks.

Some females experiment with other girls when they go away to college. Others try it when they're in the military. Some try it and realize they don't actually like it. Many never try it at all. But the interest could potentially be there, already latent within her from years of absorbing porn movies. All that's usually needed is the right mix of events to come together at the right time for something sexual to jump off.

Women like to keep up a good girl persona, especially in front of a dude they really like. But you have to be astute enough to see past the bull and peep game. If you catch your girl getting excited by two women getting it on on the screen...she likes that shit. And if she likes it on screen, she'll probably try it off screen if given the right opportunity.

Another thing too: check out her porn collection. If you find movies with titles like: All Girl Fuck Fest 5 or Licking Lesbos Loving Las Vegas, you know something's funny in the soup. Check out the kind of sites she's been frequenting online. If she has memberships to sites like: www.whengirlsplay.com or www.shelikesgirlz.com, you know your girl likes a little lady-lovin' from time to time.

Also if you find a copy of Zane's book Purple Panties lying by her bedside...your girl is most likely plucking the camel toe homie.

 I know some of the ladies reading this may protest; but flip that thing around. Imagine you caught your dude reading gay literature or frequenting sites called bigballz.com. There ain't no explaining that away buddy! You're just cold busted!

As a side note: if you're a female reading this and the photo above turns you on, you're exactly the type of chick this post is talking about!


7. A Little Bit Too Touchy-Feely

We've all seen girls do stuff like touch each other's boobs and butt and make comments about them. Well, you need to ask yourself: if they'll touch on each other that openly in front of you, how do they touch when no one's around to see?

I've seen chicks grab each other's tits right out in public and squeeze them; I've seen them walk around their apartment naked in front of each other; I've seen them rub each other's butts and even kiss. Picture two dudes doing this. Suspect looking, right?

Imagine two dudes grabbing each other by the crotch and saying "Those jeans make your dick look small nigga!" See how wrong that looks?

Well it don't look right when you do it either ladies. It comes across as very gay and suspect at best. So fellas, if you catch your chick engaging in such activity, whether playful or not...take note. She may be a closet clit nibbler...


8. Chicks Into the Natural Hair/Natural Diet/Artsy Movement

For some reason, the natual hair movement seems to attract a lot of bi and bi-curious females. Maybe a lot of it has to do with what the movement actually represents. It's a rebellion against the European standard of beauty. But whenever you get women and rebellion together in the same room, things are bound to get out of hand sooner or later. Just ask Adam.

And many of these females don't just stop at rebelling with their hair. They rebel with their bodies and sexuality as well. Now I'm not talking about every female who wears her hair natural or drinks wheat grass smoothies. Part of being a good Mack is knowing how to dissect every situation individually for what it is. None of these things are constants across the board. They're just things that as a dude living in today's society, you need to take special note of.

And I've noticed that a lot of the females in the natural hair/love-your-body movement seem to gravitate more easily to sipping on the forbidden fruit of feminine pleasure. Again: maybe it's the whole 'freedom from societal restraints' thing.

Nevertheless, as a young playa in the game, be sure to peep game if you meet one of these types of females. Take notice of her home-girls and how they look. Check out the kind of venues they frequent. Are they the sort of places where a lot of gays tend to hang out?

*Note the natural hairstyles on the ladies below. I just did a random Google image search on lesbian black women and these are the images that popped up. Coincidence?

In cities like Atlanta, there's a whole lesbian bisexual movement going on among black women. There are lesbian lounges and clubs with very clandestine names that only trigger alarms among those in the know. The average person wouldn't think nothing of them. Dudes be up in them too, thinking it's just a regular spot. But on any given Friday or Saturday night, these clubs will be packed with sisters dressed to impress....each other! Looking good, smelling good, hoping to find a female to lick under their hoods.

So you need to be aware of spots like this in your city playa. Not so you can fall through on some simping with the gay chicks thing...but so you can know if your chick is a frequent flyer on flight 69. To be forewarned is to be armed.


9. They Hang Together A Little Too Much

I'm not just talking about hanging out at the club or going to tea parties. These chicks share the same damn bed...and do it often. They take showers in front of one another. And have no problem getting butt naked around one another, even when it's bedtime.

Don't let the fact that they both have boyfriends fool you. Just like dudes on the down low who have girlfriends and wives, that boyfriend thing is often a smokescreen that masks what they really like to do on the side: getting that vagina tongue-bathed by their home-girl.

Be cognizant of such activity around your lady. Remember: females are a whole lot sneakier with their game. Only a dude that's up on game himself can peep game.



10. Girl Nights Out and Sleepovers

Okay, this should be an obvious one. Disclaimer for my ladies out there: if you're a grown ass woman, you have NO business going to sleepovers with other grown ass women! That mess ain't cute ladies: it's gay! It's about as weird as Michael Jackson having sleep-overs with little boys.

Fellas, if your lady's out there going to girl all-nighters, you best believe she's being initiated into the sisterhood of the slit-lickers. A lot of these girls night out things seem innocent on the surface. They're often called lingerie or sex toy parties, and involve a bunch of women hanging out together over someone's house, trying on sexy lingerie for one another while they sip wine and get tipsy. A potent mix for anything sexual to jump off. Add to this the mix of chocolate ( a known aphrodisiac) and sex toys, and it won't be long before those laughs and giggles turn into moans and groans of sapphic pleasure.

Many of these events are nothing short of 'turn-out parties' anyway, where the coochie-lickers try to get straight chicks to come and get their freak on with them. So watch that mess homie! If you catch your girl going to all girl parties like these, something very 'queer' could be up with her. Don't say I didn't warn you!

Well there you have it. This makes up my short list of signs to look for that your girl may be on the down low. By no means an exhaustive list, use your own good judgment, keep your game eye peeled open, and never ever fall for the okey-doke.

And as always, I welcome your input. Let's add to this list and share.

Sisters, Step Your Game Up!

"I can do bad all by myself", you say?



Well from the looks of things you're doing a damn good job at it!

Still think you don't need us...?